Real People: Caucasian Little Girl Holding Hand Up Wave Stop


Saying hello or good bye is a crucial part of our society and it is important for any child to learn to say hi and good bye the appropriate way. Saying hello and goodbye appropriately means looking at the other person and saying “hi” or “goodbye” or “wave” or a combination of the two.

What to do

Meeting a friend will be used as an example.
1. Guide your child to the friend.
2. Get your child’s attention by saying your child’s name or touching your child’s arm.
3. Say “(Child’s name) say hi to your friend”, then show your child what to do (look at the friend, and say hi/wave or say hi and wave).
4. Perfect outcome: your child looks at his friend and says hi. Praise!

Not so perfect outcome: your child looks on the floor and says nothing.

What to do: reengage your child by saying his/her name and or touching his/her arm and repeat the instruction
“(Child’s name) say hi to your friend”, then prompt your child through the process (gently lift up your child’s chin to look at the friend and then say hi).

Be Persistent

After that engage your child again and repeat the instruction from above. If your child says hi and looks at his friend, great, reinforce. If not repeat the steps from above. Repeat it three times and if your child still is not getting it move on to a different task and come back to it later. Once your child gets the prompted instruction right, redirect your child to a simple task he/she has mastered and then go back to the original instruction to make sure your child got it.


It might take your child a while, a couple days maybe even a couple weeks, to grasp the concept of what is asked of him/her. Don’t get frustrated and stick with the program. Your child will get there! Reinforce (Praise) a right response or even if your child is trying really hard.

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